Dreamers and Doers

As I approach two years of marriage, a thought came to mind. You see, I have always been a woman of big dreams, not the ambitious kind, but the audacious ones; the kinds of dreams that people only dare to envision when they feel that the whole world is their oyster. But there is a fatal flaw in my approach. All I can do is dream! In my lifetime nearing three decades, I may have dreamt of so many things to do, places to be, people to meet! But I have never brought any of my big dreams to reality. Until…I met my husband.

Every dreamer needs a doer, someone who can walk with them every step of the way and hold their hand as they try to reach for the stars. For me, that someone became my husband. Before I met him, I would come up with all the ways to make something happen but never take the first step. I would think of all the things I would get from doing something, but never find the motivation to step out of my comfort zone. But when a doer entered my life, things started to slowly change. I found the courage to put myself out there, step out of my house, speak my mind, do things my way – knowing that if I fall, there is someone to catch me.

For me, getting to be someone who only needs to explain the castles in my dream and have them built without question has been such a blessing. He has become my ‘yes man’ in ways I may have never had anyone show up for me. While this post is fast becoming a brag account, my intention is entirely different. For the dreamer in me, my husband became the doer. For some, it may be a friend, a sibling, a parent, or a mentor- the yin to your yang, the balance, the counterpart, someone who gives you the courage to be yourself and simply exist, just the way you are.

The way doers pave the way for the dreamers, dreamers bring light into a doer’s life. I have seen countless people for whom no task is too small, working for others in ways they would never do for themselves. I believe being with a dreamer in that sense can bring an endless wave of possibility in their lives. I would like to believe I brought some of that magic into my husband’s life. (I know I turned a homebody into an enthusiastic explorer!). For doers like him, who cannot slow down, dreamers become the people who help them stop and smell the flowers, look at the beauty around them and ponder all that life has to offer.

I believe reflecting on who you are may help you find what you need. You could be a dreamer or a doer. You could be both at once or none at all. Whatever the case may be, finding people who see you for who you are and help you become the person you have always wanted to be...that is precious! If you have people like that in your life, tell them what they mean to you. And if you are that someone for someone, the world is more beautiful because you exist! And if you are still on the lookout for someone like that, know that you are not alone, and it is not the end. You will find your people, and even if you don’t, I wish you would find yourself and become the version of yourself in which you feel most complete.