Sentire Dolorem

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I keep wondering 
What we are?
You are more than a friend 
Short of a scar 
Etched deep into my heart 
One step further 
Shards...
One step away 
Emptiness
I want you to be in my life 
But I can't make you stay 
I want you out of my life 
But I can't make you leave 
I am attached
Detached 
Loved 
Pained 
Hurt 
Relieved
Broken...still
You came like a thunderstorm 
Went like the rain 
I need you 
Please stay 
Don't go away
I have asked 
I won't again 
I need love
I really need love
I don't want to be alone 
I want you to stay
I am in pain 
I need love 
I can't give it to myself 
I want company
Mine alone is not enough
I am done 
I am tired 
I am torn 
I am sorry 
I shouldn't have let go 
And now you won't come back 
I am impatient 
I can't wait 
I have to move on 
There is no one to move to 
I feel alone 
Betrayed 
Lonely 
Lost 
Stuck 
Out of control
Sad 
Angry...
In pain

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